Since we moved to Llandudno, two years ago this month, I have been asked on various occasions, 'Do you miss your old home?' The truthful answer is – no, I don't, by which I mean I don't miss the place itself. Is this because living in Llandudno is a dream I grew up with? Possibly. Although I enjoyed living where we used to live, it wasn't where I grew up and it wasn't where I had always dreamed of living; so, no, I don't miss the place.
What I do miss is the people. We moved a long way – from the south-east of England to the north-west of Wales – and we left a lot of people behind. My husband's family. Friends, colleagues, neighbours, including the best next-door neighbours ever in the history of the world. Honestly, if I have lured the couple next-door into the Pickfords van and brought them with us to live next-door here, I would have.
For me, that was the hard bit about moving. Of course, thanks to the wonders of the internet, it is possible these days to stay in touch to a degree undreamed of not so many years ago; but while maintaining those long-distance relationships is important, it's not the same as having someone on the doorstep.
Which brings me to a confession. I'm not the world's most sociable person – I'm not someone who dashes about collecting friends wherever they go. A friend of mine made my jaw drop a couple of years back when she was planning her wedding and said it would be a small affair - “Just 200 of our closest friends.” 200?! Closest friends?!
I'm not like that at all. Although I am friendly with quite a few people, I have few serious, close friends, but those I do have very dear and important to me. When we moved, the one small question mark in my mind – possibly the question in everyone's mind as they move house – was the thought of having to find new friends.
And of course it has happened, and in a way that is typical of my experience – namely, I am friendly with a number of people, but I have made one new close friend. It is a friendship I specially appreciate because the thing about having few true friends is that you can't rely on ever finding another one. So this friendship has a “cherry on the cake” feel about it.
Are you a sociable person? Do you find it easy to make friends? Are you good at keeping in touch with old friends? Do share your thoughts.
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And Jen, you are absolutely right - social media has opened new opportunities for friendship. Not so long ago, I wouldn't have believed you could form a genuine friendship through the internet, but you can - you and I are proof of it.
It's wonderful to have the opportunity to make new friendships too and, as other commentators have said, social media helps with that. It's certainly helped me make friends with you, and the bond we're developing is one I cherish. xx