This coming Wednesday, it will be two years to the day since our move from the south-east of England to beautiful North Wales. Often, a house move happens because of a new job, but in our case it was brought about by two things – my childhood dream of living in Llandudno and our finding the perfect house somewhat sooner than we had intended. As for work – well, we packed in our jobs down south, knowing we must find new ones when we moved. And we did. Everything fell into place. It was a risk – a calculated one, admittedly, but a risk nonetheless. And we love the quality of life we now enjoy as a result. And now I've taken another risk. I've given up my job, which was permanent, for a temporary post to cover maternity leave. Will the new mum return to work? I have to assume so. So why have I done it? Because I will love the new job and I'd have been sorry if I hadn't. Again, it's a quality of life thing. Am I a natural risk-taker? No. Have I swanned through life flouting convention and going my own sweet way? Absolutely not. Times were when I wouldn't have dreamt of giving up a permanent post for a temporary one; and if someone else had done it, I'd have thought they were massively irresponsible. It isn't the first time I've taken a work-related risk. Some years ago, I gave up a successful career in order to re-train as a teacher. There were financial repercussions – I went back down to the bottom of the salary scale – but, after toying with the idea of teaching for some years, I finally went ahead and did it. So why these risks, these decisions? I put it down to having had two major bereavements. By major, I mean bereavements that have had a lasting impact on my view of life. One death was caused by a road traffic accident, the other by terminal illness. Both people died way before their time. And my outlook on life changed forever – and not just my outlook, but my willingness to do something about it. Life is precious and in some cases it is unbearably short. The person who died of the terminal illness didn't even enjoy his job and knowing this was instrumental in my decision to turn to teaching.Those two bereavements showed me that knowing what is right for you isn't enough. You have to do something about it. And in my own quiet way, I have. Now, in Llandudno, we have less money but lots more time; the pace of life is relaxed, the surroundings are gorgeous and we still get a buzz from the simple fact of living here. Financially speaking, the choices and changes I've made may have been barmy. But the quality-of-life measure has gone off the scale. And you can't put a price on that. |
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I agree with you, Maame - the loss of a loved one does indeed shake you up and make you think differently, but in most cases, when the shock has worn off and life begins to get back to normal, your thought processes go back to normal too. What made these two bereavements different was that my way of thinking didn't revert back again.
I'm pleased to hear about the success of your downsizing, Wendy. It isn't just freedom from the daily treadmill that you gain - it's freedom from all the associated stresses. I know what you mean about time flying by - it's astonishing to think we've been here for two whole years now. Where has the time gone?
I love reading about your love of Llandudno, Susanna, as it brings back happy memories of my childhood holidays. Only this week I ordered some wild garlic to plant in our garden in memory of that wonderful smell while walking the woods on our spring-time trips to Wales!
I'm looking forward to welcoming you back to my blog very soon to write a guest post. See you then!