This week I am delighted to welcome my friend Kirsten Hesketh back to my blog. Kirsten was here a few weeks ago when I interviewed her about her writing and her experiences submitting her book to agents.
This was a very popular blog interview and Kirsten will now be popping back at the end of each month, for the next six months, to tell us how her writing is progressing and generally keep us up to date.
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Dispatches from the Querying Trenches - January
I was going to make my first article for Susanna light and fluffy. I really was. Something expanding on the DM I sent to my writing chums the first week in January, the one that said, ‘tell me to stop faffing, get off my arse and do something!’ That flippant it’s-the-New-Year-and-I’ve-been-kidnapped-by-Twitter-and-my-word-count-is-going-nowhere’ sort of vibe. You know the sort.
Then something bad happened and I’ve really stopped writing.
Like really, really stopped writing.
I suppose it doesn’t really matter what the bad thing is. In this case, it’s teenage depression - real debilitating, black dog stuff – and it’s heart-breaking to see my child suffer in this way. I’m passionate about bringing mental health into the open, but this isn’t my story to tell so I hope you’ll understand if I leave it at that.
The point of this article is that the bad thing has killed my writing mojo stone-dead. I can keep things going at home - even though things are a bit ragged around the edges. I can care for my child – my children - to the best of my abilities. I can still work, complete my tax return, fill in my VAT - although luckily I’m going through a quiet patch. I can - by and large - stick to my New Year diet; after all, a healthier me will be better able to cope. I can even passionately promote a mental health petition for a lovely lady who is now a friend; if we can push the numbers up past 10,000 maybe … surely … hopefully everything will be OK.
But I just can’t write. Sometimes I don’t think to, sometimes I don’t want to - it just seems irrelevant. But some of the time, I do want to but feel too guilty to start. If writing was my job, I’d just get on with. But it isn’t. And, surely, instead of crafting the perfect sentence for my WIP, I should be crafting the perfect sentence to cut through the fog and help my struggling child.
So that’s been January for me.
Zero on the writing front.
How does it work for you as an aspiring writer? When bad things happen to you and those you love, do you write more, less, the same or not at all?
Hoping for brighter and lighter days ahead for us all. h h* * * *
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For me, writing has always been a refuge from life's darker moments. When I write, I come out of my 'writing cave' more able to cope. However, each of us is different and what works for one writer won't work for another.
The most important thing, though, is not to feel guilty. The situation is what it is and each moment of each day you are doing your best and making the best choices you can.
You're carrying a heavy load so be kind of yourself. Care for yourself too. And when you're ready to write again, even if you only write one word or one short sentence, it will be a start. Whether you're writing at the moment or not, you ARE a writer with important stories to tell.
Thanks for sharing and for your honesty. *Hugs* xx
Funny how life happens, isn't it?
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How funny that stepping away and writing fact has reopened the door to fiction.
I'm so grateful to you for letting me have a home on your lovely blog and I really hope I'll be writing something more upbeat in February.
Lots of love
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What do you do when times get tough? xx
Ah... so I'm not the only one who runs and hides from the WIP when times get tough, eh? That's good to hear!
The funny thing is that writing this article has got me writing again. And then one of the teens said I'm less grumpy when I'm writing ...
You can't win!!
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As to your question, I hide from the keyboard when things are less than good xx